June 21, 2011
From “Now What? Seven Differences between Truth and Error”
Chapter 2 The truth about one’s family: the difference between danger and discipline
The land will mourn, clan by clan – the clan of the royal household of David by itself and their wives by themselves; the clan of the family of Nathanby itself and their wives by themselves;
Zechariah 12:12 NET
Often times in our families we have a tendency to overlook family flaws and sins. We are giving in to what is “normal” in the family. We need help but we don’t acknowledge it. Our families were designed to be a place of refuge but often times it has become a mess. So where do we look for hope in the midst of family disputes and disagreements? Where do we experience discipline or danger? Do we realize the extent of influence our families have in our lives?
In the passage above (Zechariah 12:12), the meaning of the passage is the crying of the Jewish nation because of Jesus Christ’s death on the cross. The extent of the mourning was because they saw Christ as “pierced” (Zech 12:10). When Jesus Christ was crucified, many Jews mourned because their Messiah has passed away. It was part of their family tradition and values that the Messiah will bring salvation and hope to their nation against the Roman Empire. But the good news is ultimately, their Messiah will come back again for the second time and He will reign forever on David’s throne, which is the “royal household of David.” It is available for all who believe in this prophecy. The mourning in this passage will eventually be turned into joy because of the coming of their Messiah.
It is clear that in our households, we experience both the areas of discipline and danger. Our great families give us a sense of security and confidence in times of danger and discipline. Our good families give us a sense of hope in times of danger. Our bad families give us a sense of despair in times of discipline. Our ugly families give us a sense of insecurity and fear in times of danger within the home and discipline that is filled with anger and malice.
The truth about the human heart comes closer to the reality in our relationships at home. When we experience danger in our homes, it is reflected in how we relate with others. When we experience discipline in our homes, it is reflected in how we treat others as well as ourselves. Both can lead to heartaches that only a few can tell their closest friends. Relationships are within the spectrum of danger and discipline especially in the home.
Howard G. Hendricks in his book Color Outside the Lines, mentioned the importance of the family as a secure place in which creativity can flourish. He says
importance of the family as a secure place in which creativity can flourish. He says
Home is where the heart is, they say. Quips and jokes about the home abound: It’s where you can take off your new shoes and put on your old manners. It’s where people go when they get tired of being nice to people. Yet however lightly we regard it, the home is the nest from which we all take flight, and one of the most influential factors in our creativity is the quality of our home life.
One’s family can only give a picture of who we are within a context of either hate or love. We cannot love someone when we don’t love our family. We cannot hate someone when we haven’t experience hate in our family. Look at the crimes of people; we will understand that it begins in the home. Look at the greatness of achievers; we will understand that it begins in the family.
 Howard G. Hendricks, Color Outside the Lines: A Revolutionary Approach to Creative Leadership Swindoll Leadership Library (Nashville, TN: Word Publishing, 1998), 175 reiterates the importance of creativity so that Christian Leaders can continue to influence their world for the beauty and design of God’s purposes.